Self-love is being preached everywhere I go. I am not quite sure if it’s just how my social media is set up but I keep coming across the act of self-love. As a teenager, I had no real idea of this concept because honestly all was quite well in my world.
When adulthood began to force herself into my life I struggled with losing myself and self-love( its dearth actually) became my reality. This wasn’t (and isn’t) in terms of putting myself above others or placing them above myself.
This is simply about not excluding myself from joy. It really is about allowing myself truly be well… myself and enjoy the seemingly vague things that assist in cumulating my happiness.
In life, it really is in the seemingly little things. I have started are some of the changes I have slowly, intentionally placed in my life which have led to more confident, self-love indulgent Desire;
Sharing My Day
My Instagram is basically about the Story feature. On YouTube, I have always preferred vlogs to tutorials simply because I love knowing about the ‘real life’ of people. Call me silly but I thrive on seeing how people live, in general. It seems to leave me enthralled. On that basis, I recently started sharing snippets of my day on Instagram which doess give me more confidence because putting myself ‘out there’ is one thing I have always wanted to do but lacked the courage to. Now, it is not as difficult as it used to be to let myself go and I am loving it!
Everyone has a superpower and it comes in different facets; Academic excellence, Great sense of style, Astounding leadership traits, you name it. At other times, it comes in more subtle ways, like mine.
I don’t know how to breathe fire but I do have what I call ‘The Power Of The Encourager’. I won’t even be modest.
I. Believe. In. People.
As much as I may have been hurt by this, it comes as my first notion to genuinely trust and support people so I have decided to just go with it and it does make me feel like a better person.
So, yes, I choose to believe in the dreams of people; encourage when things go wrong and celebrate when it goes right, and there I find a site of my joy.
Loving My Hair
… or lack thereof.
A few weeks ago, I went ahead to finally join the cut (and dye) life after three years of wanting to do so.
I kid you not, this was a phenomenal moment for me- my whole outlook on my life changed. I know its ‘just hair’ but it had such a hold on me and I didn’t even realize till I let it go.
This singular act was followed by Desire actually feeling and acting beautiful. I would look in the mirror and know that I am beautiful, I needed no one to remind me. I love how I look now and it has definitely resounds in the way I love myself.
Taking More Pictures
If you’d known me five years ago, I really hated taking pictures except I was locked in a dungeon protected by a fire-breathing dragon and the keys thrown out (I’d still hate it though). This was actually because I cared way too much about ‘what people would think’ and if I could ever really look good in pictures.
Circa 2018, I haven’t mastered the art of taking pictures in front of crowds but at least now there are pictures of me out there in the world as I take pictures more frequently, consciously putting myself out there.
This rather elementary act has improved the way I see myself in a positive way and I love the pictures I have.
I keep saying, I love love, and a prominent phase of that is self-love.
It is imperative that you remember to appreciate, praise and congratulate you for a change! It may not come at all times you want it to, it takes a deliberate effort. This is not for anyone else but for yourself.
How do you consciously love yourself? How do you get out of a depressive rut?
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